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Those were the lyrics to my first ecstatic dance.  My dad played blues guitar and sang, and I’d shake and shimmy just as fast and furiously as my little three-year-old booty could across the ice blue carpet of our Florida living room. By the end of a jam session I’d usually ripped off most of my clothes and whirled around and around, my eyes streaming, to collapse in a heap.  This dance had a name.  I called it the widdy-waddy dance.

Since I was clearly not such a ballet type, my mother took me to tap class.  I loved the tah-TAH sounds my shiny Mary Janes made the first time I put them on, and hated the thick white tights that slid down my hips to create an unpleasant basket effect around my crotch during class as the instructor’s grating voice shouted, “shuffle ball change, shuffle ball change”.  I crumpled.  We didn’t go back.

The funny thing about the shadow, all those parts of ourselves we aren’t comfortable acknowledging, is that we leave our love and passion in the dark as often as we leave our fear and anger.  As Rilke says, “the darkness pulls in everything.”

After that one tap class I decided that I had a secret.  My way of dancing wasn’t o.k. with the rest of the world, so I needed to hide it.  The surest way to hide something is to bury it someplace where you can’t even find it yourself, like a squirrel with an acorn.  That’s what I did.  I told myself I wasn’t interested in dance.  I didn’t even like watching it very much.  I would still dance around alone in my room, but that didn’t count.  That was silliness.  It wasn’t dance.  When I danced in the theater, that was acting.  It wasn’t dance.

The acorn stayed buried until I started developing my intuition during a terrible period of writer’s block.

The conversation with myself went something like this:

I didn’t have anything to lose. I listened to that voice.

Within six weeks of my first epiphany I’d found my teacher, Dunya McPherson, and Dancemeditation.  I watched her dance and thought, ‘That’s it. I can come out now.  Its safe for me.  She’s such an amazing dancer, and… she’s doing the widdy-waddy dance!  She’s moving just how her body wants to move.’  I went on her website and fell in love with her writing too.  Clearly perfect.

The writer’s block took time to fully melt away; maybe a year of furious dancing within the healing context of Dancemeditation with its focus on awareness and respect for the body’s innate intelligence.

When the block finally melted I thought, ‘Well, maybe I got what I needed and now I can stop.’  But of course its not like that.  The more I deepen into dance, the more my writing deepens, the more I deepen.  The body is a doorway to reality beyond the personality, the ego, which can hold us all hostage.  It was my ego telling me I couldn’t, shouldn’t write.  My ego was telling me to stay small, safe, and to avoid criticism at all cost.

I’m often scared.   Dance is an art form that takes many years and hours to begin to master.  It isn’t about steps, its about learning how to move the body with more and more articulation and awareness.  Five years and eighty days to earn my Dancemeditation teacher training certificate and I’m still near the beginning of that journey.  The exciting part is that like studying nature, studying the body from the inside out is also a life’s work.

At its core my dance feels strong. The widdy-waddy dance is intact.  Its unfolding with greater variation every time I have an opportunity to learn technique, to discover more ways to move, different ways of seeing, feeling, of being in the world.